Recently, the news of how a divorcee found the love of a Prince and got married to him was the talk of the media. Yep! I’m referring to the love and marriage ceremony of the now Princess Meghan and Prince Harry.
I wouldn’t stress so much about their relationship and events that led up to the marriage. I’ll just focus on the D day itself.
We all noticed how she didn’t she walk down the aisle with a long bridal train or aso-ebi ladies. There was no one helping to hold the length of her veil. Not because a lot of people wouldn’t volunteer to do it. It wasn’t because they didn’t have the money to pay someone to do it. it was because of her choice of simplicity.
It is very unfortunate that a lot of our African brides can’t do without appearing with a long bridal train, and in our very tough economy too. Let us face the fact, avoiding this means fewer expenses. Without any chief bridesmaid, bridal train or aso-ebi girls, Meghan still walked down the aisle to meet her prince charming, and it was perfect. As annoyingly plain as her dress was, her wedding is still the talk of the town.
Yup! I know what you’re thinking. It was a royal wedding. It will definitely be the talk of the town, or social media and other media outlets around the world. Yes. So why not use it to set an example for ourselves instead?
Something else we noticed was that Meghan wasn’t putting on any heavy makeup. I’m not saying makeup isn’t good. But reason this with me. A woman is getting married to the love of her life. They have the money to have a lavish marriage ceremony. But after paying the makeup artist with your hard earned money, you may end up looking more like a cartoon or zombie for an occasion you’re very excited about; an occasion where you’re the center of attention.
Now let’s look at this the other way. A bride is preparing for her wedding. They do not have so much to plan a big wedding, But they can afford to provide the basic requirements for a small wedding or marriage ceremony. The lady pays a makeup artist she can easily afford. Now, this artist is awesome with simple makeups, as she’s not yet a professional, hence her services are cheap.
D day comes and our affordable makeup artist tries to meet with professional standard, after all, the bride is supposed to help market her business. So she goes on using foundation upon foundation on the poor bride’s face, instead of sticking to the simple make-up she is very good at. Option two in most cases is caused by the bride who refused to understand that she hired an artist who is only good at basic make-up.
Worse, there are brides who know the cash isn’t there for a makeup artist and could get anyone of her female relatives to help with a simple makeup. But no o. This is Nigeria. A lot of us have decided we must show ourselves.
I once read about a lady who paid 300,000 thousand naira for her makeup on her wedding day, something that she would clean before the end of the day? I don’t know how true this is. But I read it anyway.
A family friend borrowed so much money from friends and his workplace to do his marriage. He spent so much on the ceremony, including the bride’s outfit and makeup. Well, the next one year wasn’t rosy, as he spent it paying debts and having nothing for himself, not even to care for his new bride.
I always tell people, a marriage ceremony is a one or two days event. You need to have the cash to take care of your selves and your basic needs after the marriage. Don’t go spending foolishly.
What’s the essence of my rants? Don’t go overboard for your marriage ceremony, especially if you do not have the cash for them. Secondly, I don’t believe one has to follow the crowd. Choose your style. If you have the cash for it, do your thing, as long as you don’t turn up as a masquerade.
If you don’t have the cash for it, you can still have a very lovely marriage/wedding that you’ll be very satisfied with. It only takes planning and keeping the word, “Simplicity,” at heart.
Ifeoma Isabella Okeke is a passionate creative writer and a contributor on Pelleura. Her work, titled, ‘My Legendary-Achebe’ earned her an award in the 2016 essay writing competition. When she isn’t working or glued to her books, she spends time thinking up new ideas. Her two novels, Moonlight and the Warrior and The Return of Ijele are available on Okadabooks. Her life is indeed, her message.